לערנען לשון הקודש וואלט נישט צופיל געהאלפן. צו פארשטיין וואס קליפת נוגה מיינט דארף מען הארעווען אין א חסידישע ישיבה עטליכע יאר. און גלייב מיר, ס'איז נישט ווערד. Is it really not worth it all those years in yeshiva? For someone who likes to learn, isn't it heaven? I understand that boys who don't li...

I'll add that most women want their men to look good and be clean. They should take care of themselves a Bit.
Have an opinion when asked.
Respect her רוחניות and not tell her that it's not important.

What you said was that feminism is inherently sexist because it's built on the premise that men are sexist so it assumes a differences between the genders thus making it sexist. What I was pointing our was that in a patriarchal society, women will be sexists too, as studies show. So that premise fal...

Discussions like this make me wish I They taught me more in school. Hard to follow all the puns and idioms without a good understanding of לשון קודש.

You guys are hysterical. You see how a language barrier can cause trouble.

Motti, you never tried teaching girls, did you? There's no shortage of teachers quiting and first year teachers not controlling the classroom. But because the norm is that young girls teach, there's more of a chance They should succeed so that's a very bad example. if it would be the norm by boys, I...

Gefilte, maybe the reason there's no equivalent site as kave shteibel is because less chassidic women have access to internet and those that do are too busy with their kids?

I said more women think in grey and nuances. This was my experience from the men and women I interacted with until I found this site. Most of the men I know are way more black and white and into what 'everyone ' does. No appreciation for art and literature or individualism probably because They neve...

יאיר, one problem with your logic is that women can't be sexist. But that's not true. Women can be sexist too. I can't even count the number of times I've heard women say that male doctors are better just because they're male or that women don't have daas Torah. It's so deeply ingrained in our socie...

What's מאחרי? And what is סיסטעם געשלאגן? It's interesting that you're saying that more men laugh at the system. I was very surprised to find kave shteibel. I always thought that way more women think in grey and nuances than men. But you do raise an I interesting point that deserves its own thread. ...

You care to elaborate on problems that come along with a strong character? You did resort to the b word, even though you didn't spell it out...
How are those problems different than a man that has a strong character?

I know what the chinuch is like unfortunately. I've been through the system. But not accepting it doesn't make you a word that starts with a b. It's when you have to fight and fight and fight, and be told again and again how wrong, crazy you are, that will turn anyone bitter. Now the fact that stron...

Moti, it's attitudes like yours that are a huge part of the problem. Not necessarily will that kind of character cause this, but it's being told again and again that you're one for wanting more rights turns you into one. It's a chicken and egg question. I really don't think it matters why expectatio...

I do think that expectations is a result of feminism but it's not that important what caused it. But you're raising a different issue entirely. That it's the women that are pushing back on feminism. I guess there might be some truth to this because of the way girls in our community are raised, never...

אליבא דאמת האט געשריבן:איך האב לעצטענס באקומען א לינק צו א נייע בלאג, ער ריפט זיך ''באראפארקער'' און ער שרייבט אייזענער פון אייזן.
יעצט שרייבט ער וועגן די אומגליקליכע אסיפה. כאפטס א בליק
http://boroparker.wordpress.com/2014/02 ... is-sexist/

Thanks for the link. Will elaborate when I have more time.

יאיר, I think it's impossible to discuss the שלום בית problems without discussing feminism. It has undeniably had a role in shaping society and expectations. You can call that one of the טענות the women have. That our society is so reluctant to move that way and the idea of equality is so vilified.

Fascinating conversation you have going on here. I'm sorry for writing in English but it's much easier for me to express myself in English. Here's the thing. Within our social construct there's no acknowledgement at all of the women's needs. Even the way you guys are suggesting tznius should be taug...

This debate has no relation whatsoever with the sanctity of marriage, sanctity of ego and control maybe. The debate over feminism is a moral one. Is it moral to subordinate half of the population? The other side of the debate says that it is because it's for the betterment of society. Having said t...

נישט געדאגעט. די ציגן וועלן זיך ציגעווינען.

So someone starts a thread on my name and you all take me to task. I was addressing a sexist comments in the other thread, not this question. But I thought it was ironic that you guys opened a separate thread for me within the context of this question so pointed out how vast the cultural separation ...

I'd go even further than the language and say that the culture is so vastly different. You can think the men and women are raised in different religions even. Some find the differences endearing while for others it's a real barrier.

This is precisely the reason. When people come from such different worlds, where even the language is a barrier, you'll have less happy couples.

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