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ביי מיר איז זיין ס׳לעצטע אויף 99 פונקט אזוי גוט ווי ס׳ערשטע אויף 100

קופערניקוס האסט כאטש צוגעגרייט א גוטס צום 100'טן בלאט?

די עיקר איז אז צום לעצט איז געווארן רואיג אין דעם אשכול אויך


מען לאכט שוין אביסל אינאיינעם..

נעבעך נחמי׳, אבער מיר ווייסמער דאך פון אר״י הק׳ כי בשמחה תצאו

מיט שמחה קען מען ארויסגיין פון אלע צרות

ובשלום תובלון, אבער ווען ס׳הערשט שלום, ווערט מען פארוועליקט און פארשימלט

ביבער האט געשריבן:קופערניקוס האסט כאטש צוגעגרייט א גוטס צום 100'טן בלאט?

ער׳ט אנגעגרייט אבער ער וועט עס איצט מוזן טראנסלערירן אויף ענגליש, ער האט נישט דאס היברו קנעפל ברעט

ס׳ביי מיר א באזונדערע פרייד, אז מיט׳ן מישן
הונדערט, דערגרייך איך אט דעם 100׳סטן לייק


איך דארף אבער אייער הילף דערצו....נא.

איך שטיי ביי 96.

צו גיין נאך פיר

א בחינה פון שני כתובים הבאים כאחד


נא

?וואס איז ערגער? א ציוני? א טשיילד מאלעסטער

אאאאאא פעידזש 100

מזל טוב, מזל טוב!!!

(קופערניקוס ענגליש, געוואלד אידיש) שיין שיין

די וועבערמאן סומאטאכע פייערט אפ מיט גרויס עקסטאז איר הונדרעטסטע בלאט יובלטום! פרייען זאלן זיך אלע קרויס-וועבערמאן שטיצער-אפעזירער! הודעות איינס נאכן צווייטן אזוי טאלאנטפול איבערגעקייט מיט א פרישע גערוך!

געוואלד געשריגן האט געשריבן:?וואס איז ערגער? א ציוני? א טשיילד מאלעסטער

אאאאאא פעידזש 100

איך ווייס נישט א ציוני אדער א טשיילד מאלעסטער, דאס ווייס איך זיכער, אז א יעניגער, א פארשוין וואס קומט דא אן, מקרוב באו, פון ווי די שווארצע פעפער וואקסט, און נעמט אוועק די ערשטע הודעה פונעם הונדערטסטן, פון דעם לאנגיעריגן, אלטגעזעסענעם, גר ותושב כש"ת ר' קופערניקוס, איז זיכער ארגער פון דאס ארגסטע.
יא, ארגער, יא, מיט אן א' און נישט בלויז ערגער מיט אן ע' (און ווער עס האט זיך געדרייט ביי די אויגן וואס האבן געזעהן אויגן ווייסן שוין גוט, הוי, שפירן... דעם דיפערענץ) ארגער פון דאס ארגסטע!

קופערניקוס האט געשריבן:

געוואלד געשריגן האט געשריבן:?וואס איז ערגער? א ציוני? א טשיילד מאלעסטער

אאאאאא פעידזש 100

איך ווייס נישט א ציוני אדער א טשיילד מאלעסטער, דאס ווייס איך זיכער, אז א יעניגער, א פארשוין וואס קומט דא אן, מקרוב באו, פון ווי די שווארצע פעפער וואקסט, און נעמט אוועק די ערשטע הודעה פונעם הונדערטסטן, פון דעם לאנגיעריגן, אלטגעזעסענעם, גר ותושב כש"ת ר' קופערניקוס, איז זיכער ארגער פון דאס ארגסטע.
יא, ארגער, יא, מיט אן א' און נישט בלויז ערגער מיט אן ע' (און ווער עס האט זיך געדרייט ביי די אויגן וואס האבן געזעהן אויגן ווייסן שוין גוט, הוי, שפירן... דעם דיפערענץ) ארגער פון דאס ארגסטע!

sorry..must it be personal?

אוי, די ווייסט נישט אז איך טרייב ליצנות? איך מאך א וויץ. לערן דיר אויס, קופערניקוס שרייט אויף די ווייב, אויף די ארבעטס געבער, אויף די מקוה איד, אויף יעדן וואס קומט אין די ד' אמות ; אין קאווע שטיבל איז מען דא זיך צו האלטן קיל און טרייבן ליצנות

ר' יאנקעל האראוויץ מאכט קלאר פארוואס ער האט געשטיצט קרויס אין א פערזענדליכע אימעיל וואס ער האט היינט געשריבען


From the desk of
Rabbi Yakov Horowitz
December 24, 2012

Update - Re: Weberman
Abuse Trial



Dear Shmuel,


With Nechemya Weberman convicted and awaiting sentencing, here are some
reflections upon the trial and why Project YES supported his victim in a
very public manner.



We got involved in the spring when it became clear that a young victim still
within the statute of limitations was actually committed to pressing charges
and testifying against her molester. In the process of doing due diligence,
I personally heard from four additional victims of Weberman, all of whom
were terrified to come forward and press charges because of community
intimidation. They didn't know each other, but they all told the same
stories, described similar forms of physical abuse - some of which became
public knowledge during the trial.



Just one horrific example: Those of us close to the case heard from the
victims that Weberman was burning many of them on their abdomens with
cigarette lighters and candles as part of his warped fantasies. However,
this was only discussed at a side bar during his trial and did not become
public knowledge until this New York Post Article
<http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0018uexFhBiKet5wMLRRJNGFQUnwr-zcomTvWvdUY11MmuU
m3qUX4SkWlOLX0Nzs6Cij3Gk38DVAtp1kMOYaxdQ81EA6X1U5YTfuZMlOEkUukef_iw-YRKQzJuz
c1f3RTAYIDcb2hkc7ODjV1CaE7VG-oD6ool6lsfaQP0FvAgRq6QO05DwGuBMVGjtRLYVRIJI8HoI
KU2aiDgmwXeD_8V0xA==> ran a few days after the verdict.



Two chassidish men, both in their thirties and well integrated into the
community told me that Weberman burned their wives on their abdomens while
violating them. One of the fellows said that he first discovered the abuse
when his wife screamed and nearly fainted when he inadvertently passed a
(havdala) candle close to her midsection. It was only then, that she told
him the story of what she had gone through in her "counseling sessions" with
Weberman.



Weberman's other victims revealed details that matched those of the
plaintiff in this case, which in the aggregate indicated that he was
conducting an evil, calculated, and highly successful Grooming
Process<http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0018uexFhBiKevsUYME60apYg3uE3FQaaPnRQ6vk
NFcJVuPnZtHSWkFfDYxMYoMEanMpeehYaLYbBM-Qa5BAigc1vsD6AQrAVdCxURcXVue2pWPQaaRc
D8b2d_LHEESbjSzrbI_jFHYyUJt4yHJPllDpw==>. This included humiliating his
victims, and telling them that no one will ever believe messed-up kids like
them. He deliberately turned the parents against their children, telling
them, among other things, that their son or daughter was a pathological
liar, in order to have his defense in place should the kids ever reveal his
abuse.



Weberman even told some of the girls he was abusing that (hold your stomach)
they were reincarnated separately, but they had been married to him in a
previous gilgul (lifetime), and that the intimate acts he was performing
were intended as a form of te'shuva (repentance) for sins committed in their
previous lifetimes. Keep in mind that many of his victims were innocent,
pre-teen girls who were raised in a very sheltered environment, and that
Weberman was presented to them by their school as a distinguished rabbi -
lending credence to whatever story he spun to them.



Weberman carefully selected his victims from a pool of families who had
marital issues or an elder child who was on drugs or no longer observant,
correctly assuming that those parents would lack the self-confidence to do
battle with him should they suspect anything wrong.



He was also very cautious not to abuse the children of well-connected
families. None of his victims who have come to our attention are very
wealthy or named Teitelbaum or Twersky (dynastic rabbinic families) - only
from what Leona Helmsley famously called the "little people."



Once it became clear that Weberman appeared to be a serial pedophile, we
recognized that this was a unique opportunity to break the wall of silence
about abuse in the Charedi world. The "Establishment" responded to the
accusations by holding a huge
fundraiser<http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0018uexFhBiKetQhj7pfdvU5XnOuXvtFQ2wcS
UzlfACFnxfGZAL2P_159i6A-NEChoTiZVPS-Wrn21_B70pM0Sdx4F6ncClGZrOa3AXN0Zp8CSnWY
QdJmETlvB2TDzJXia4RQ_kdwV2_XeYZtebxsq9cLGGFTwGZhszf6Ss2pilvwyXibVjLu66kj3x2c
m6j3VM80Lz1djIPcJmkFifEr8CKqrqR2A2kifQU_HYWoqHqSI0EIbMUCqDTA==> to raise a
half million dollars for Weberman's defense.



Shortly thereafter, we were notified from those close to the case that the
victim's family was under unbearable pressure from the community after the
fundraiser. The DA was concerned that she would do what so many others
before her had done - buckle under to the pressure and refuse to testify.
Indeed, four men were subsequently arrested
<http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0018uexFhBiKetOrUtwFaPM_RAFXbz_C7f5L9LarlcSUUcP
uLxvY0OxR6x3sdyjtO4FMfbfzeBxqPeV2NAYLqD47I0r58qJ0lSSq5H43T69vQqYeTsiCEZHr2hG
lZenPGOmwxg2s2Ih0OUmkOgRQrl5g0U3HzBQpN4VY2tN5tsg-pZRbUDJiT0hBbp4oUcYlnrfA6nM
XgnMMcxbkbveWcfNT0cwQMwYNpm0XZxXjRd7sXXUuv2NMOYBJjLF6d-tcef4OBK9-S7z6QMDRPMr
AihmpvMLgXAyGYvY1RGYTmFscng=> for attempting to bribe the victim to the tune
of $500,000 to drop the charges.



Keep in mind that this brave young victim, not yet eighteen, had been
repeatedly molested by Weberman from the young age of twelve until she was
fifteen. (For all those asking what defense attorney Mr. Farkas kept raising
during the trial - why didn't she come forward earlier - take a careful look
at the size and maturity level of the precious 12-year-old kinderlach in
your neighborhood. That ought to answer your question.) Knowing she would
need help, we went public and urged our readers to Stand With the
Victim<http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0018uexFhBiKeui7lVQVmvJrK7aH1AD4_Wnbosj4u
BxUWItcZT-M9u8sldKtmpgCBEBXnHpfE30TXU88ZUDZRYnYsF9qXvkU-PXl-HbS07pKa2KAy4faX
YH-xkutmWV5OVAaGY_jFaWQPb_c0WlaMTSNAiT8uPafQ2EXAfL5mLg7MlUqghWZiloxrRfsnEoeL
x8W5GPHppDb3w=> and offer her emotional support in a post on our website two
weeks after the fundraiser (May 30, 2012). We asked our readers to post
comments of encouragement and to contact the Brooklyn DA requesting police
protection for her family as needed.



Sadly, in the Williamsburg community there seemed to be almost universal
support for Weberman (which is not at all unusual in child abuse cases - the
abusers frequently get away with it for so long since they are otherwise
well-respected, upstanding, charismatic members of the community) flinging
slings and arrows at the victim attempting to ruin her reputation and
totally undermine her credibility.



We then decided to embark on a campaign to educate the public about
Weberman's wildly inappropriate methods of counseling the young girls in his
care with this post What Went Terribly
Wrong<http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0018uexFhBiKetrr_L6CSSnbStJaqj9-3nK_GeKUVx
aXl3YXgtCvQ7b8a7fP-3_wuBkHkiOPKPJK3lG4xOZ9PViXrPYxqQRniZiVhmFP3blx8ie__AQril
pO4F8sRFRwZ0J7UNAenhuh4N75tfG87M2qnpT8yzkTe-lPElQaD7N9s48n6giBfO_WzzZSzifRVt
XAsy3vZaBumZKcRtU-rI8qdE4gaQwget72MOBynGRYuTjAjP_uGkArw==>. We pointedly
highlighted his flagrant violations of Hilchos Yichud (if these young girls
had been in a locked apartment containing a bedroom with an "outsider" for
counseling sessions for four hours a day, three times a week instead of
with Rabbi Weberman, the community would have been in an uproar). Hearing
about his eleven hour car trip alone with her to the Catskills caused many
to rethink their position on what was really going on.



In the lead-up to and during the trial, we posted Clear and Present Danger
<http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0018uexFhBiKevQjCje2Nat1Yk22tNNd017kUSc6Q5ztJbB
sVD3CzDZwUESClfPE9WQsvK0ey4IztKMDorT4Nm8_Bem_0zneBGKikVyacx21PGRkYsrTV0Y4nmy
FuOvi0j9o3f-OZ5ec3pxJsoOa0ayq1eG_N4aSu7SYN4MKsd5MU-lPUHMjBLuPyZIK9Z-9okh7xjI
5J-CJjQlAVX4eoH5VMK91Qi_wiw-6b10aufb_w0_UDNP-SSETofojUY35rJW> explaining the
halachic reasons that predators need to be reported to the police, and The
Halo
Effect<http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0018uexFhBiKeuo43AKHLoBw_KFQpLf4hDk2Cg80_
VlhxtINDk2gpqmLngTexs0nIs7qut-VB0Lzys67BvlKmxgRr43mtV4JGibTPvYznQup7C9aLJyFY
VI6CXpsAdf14unY3esLHbM-bQjscvWIfomvucsDwDbJR_bq25ANHZwufWht8cuxAl4AyjWoDddv3
-xLAWrZnDRbOXFKagcZ5gMtZ_JMAA2YCesPvVvLw9cnLpXm_D5Pj8gsWF1m0PeM31U>
explaining how predators get away with their abuse.



Most people simply do not want to know about child abuse, as the entire
subject makes them feel ill. Therefore, if just makes it harder to educate
parents about abuse overall and how the grooming process works (here is a
fantastic piece by Malcom Gladwell, In Plain
View<http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0018uexFhBiKesuoLWUQGKsaCk_NEZlMn4QQ-VsdWGE
WJH3kRuRrzkkSljwBHnJQS2yQHf7RG5_abx3xn-K_Pb5gmDk4V2j9I3CotJJGCtn142qj-BoXY4o
fVo5UVdoY-uCaEqty4E03WG2vd6ajN8OnzkFMANpYrHargVXi9inMiSuK03q4SIkdg7CiFSTRN0c
5bjMceUPJ3vd9hLRNRkzMg==> on grooming. A must read for parents.)
Additionally, the cultural norms that have not allowed the Charedi press to
cover the Weberman trial just adds to the disconnect and Cognitive
Dissonance<http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0018uexFhBiKesmwItcg9qB0N32efZOmTAUB-
4PbxeE1D0-y6KVQYQulRx9w64g9E1H8frxBq8-pL5P_mixlRXOUSNIoz4WDk2HKk9fe5LZglY4UW
UIREk2yo53a3reDIKjBoqEWOt60zUQ877kjAacLhMRlQEfyqbGTVGTxddOSygiJfc1leUbK98Nad
Ko98sNL0adJj-xJXu_QGIKgP6VXt3yLXFoT6ktEe8Jp4Gtogn6b7G9XWY6VEmp4-XIh4e8ZdKQ68
4Ilco=> which is causing such harm to our kids.



Weberman's supporters are running a $1,000,000 campaign for his appeal, and
they are going all out in a public relations effort, including this past
week's Ami magazine where George Farkas, Weberman's attorney, graced the
front cover and asserted Weberman's innocence.



It is heartening that many of Weberman's other victims are now finding their
voices - albeit only whispering to friends and family members. But the
deadly wall of silence is showing growing cracks. Mr. Heinz, the Brooklyn DA
<http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0018uexFhBiKev328gPEeBY08IhMwRkK-mZ9h7BTJKS8yPU
wK3AYNEvLtihMm46tSPSbJyBnGhoIhUSB-efZZ3ybmaXuMtBKmWIDjZWvzqDWF2DDR8ooJZ2-YZB
mg8OoWtbsO6OL9Bfh3djcFHzLl0RC7JNQPi-Pdn9bqzTSZ6VMczmg9KmSgaOkM_NUAyVSGKeoosP
6ibHVj8F70IXG8DHvA==> went on record in several
interviews<http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0018uexFhBiKeuMWCCLyDC7L4ynySk_YdB1ZM
i4he8RTnQGGjQNT-ybMIqlZjVhw3ML_uU2vCGpVkaoMpj-npPy2-ZzqBrXO2EsXM88kplRS7Iimk
DqoR8gjvxrKQ7Ejp5ZhF0PJgCj8i03qEyFsw6Pr9FY2saEAeeSdRtnFtR01Pk=> that there
is "at least one more victim," (who has come forward but is afraid to
testify), and his ADA's have previously stated that they are in
conversations with six of Weberman's victims.



In the charedi community, respected people are stepping forward. Ezra
Friedlander<http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0018uexFhBiKesWPFmPWV_p4rgiej9iKBJ7B
ywbmbKDECTZePv7lfSumiaNrFO36VbNzEGzah5muVZXkf6RJxaBLUMMWwqflO-J4o0MBJVryGJlR
xJKXSPqsknMvjSmTHD8ogV6u2uQnqIqQyPSRayKVpyQwCxh27tbiGZEkVG8BZIAz_XO9gNfnUa7W
3d7I2LOOyfwO-QY_Lpye8MC53N5jcossEf_9nKxMuYQoq8z7S4=>, just released a column
where he mentions a second Weberman victim and we will probably hear much
more of this in the near future. There are simply too many survivors of his
to keep this quiet forever. If or when they decide to go to the DA, the
press, or to join in a class action law suit, the lid will probably come
completely off.



Weberman is a monster who had incredible access to young girls and boys and
married women for many, many years. What is so frightening is that those who
are coming forward now are the married women, as the single girls are afraid
of ruining their shidduch prospects. We shudder to think of how many single
victims of his are out there continuing to suffer in silence.



Research shows that the average pedophile molests 50-200 children in his
lifetime. With the level of access that Weberman had, and the naiveté' of
the kids he worked with, ... may Hashem have mercy.



The ongoing publicity proclaiming Weberman an innocent man is a dagger in
the already broken hearts of his survivors. According to firsthand reports I
received from professional therapists, even those survivors of Weberman's
abuse who are grown and married are traumatized by these fundraisers to the
extent that they are exhibiting signs of
PTSD<http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0018uexFhBiKeuGchdTdvqqQGAF50GecSErh6myzIUX
OurYuvvGCJ6c8YuSMp33Wi_CZ_QLOs0xiyQ8IKWTzmJpbI8sUDypWH9FkEbC3gJCIQ71MaXShCAE
CIB5Xy5pfTjqLaMg9MLKq7M2uzKKAkXSwyIAgK9JOUERTHuz_WXx0Lbgder9Rq3bmw==>. It is
for this reason alone that I feel it is a matter of pikuach nefesh (a matter
of life and death) to give voice to his voiceless victims and publicize the
true story of what transpired.



Standing with the victim and speaking truth to power the way we did was not
a pleasant task, nor is it one that is risk-free, but we are determined to
see this through.



My family spent this past Rosh Hashana with 200 Jewish recovering drug and
alcohol addicts - the vast majority of whom were molested in their formative
years. After listening to their horror stories and seeing the hell each and
every one of them is undergoing, I promised myself that I will do whatever
it takes to keep today's kids safe.



May it be Hashem's will that we finally succeed.



Best and warmest regards,



Yankie

איז די אימעיל פון הארוויץ קאנפירמד אז ער האט עס געשריבן?

נולד מאוחר האט געשריבן:איז די אימעיל פון הארוויץ קאנפירמד אז ער האט עס געשריבן?

יא. קאנפירמד

העי, קופורניקוס, ווי איז דיין גאנצע מגילה געגאנגען? אזוי שיין געמאכט חזרה אויף די הונדערט בלעטער, כ'וויל דיר לייקן, והילד איננו.

אה, כ'זע האסט דיר אפגעשטיקעלט מיט דיין תגובה צו א צווייטע אשכול, האסט מורא מ'וועט גרייכן דא צו הונדערט און איינס?

נולד האקט, יא היצטערט באמערקט.

ראשעקאל האט געשריבן:

נולד מאוחר האט געשריבן:איז די אימעיל פון הארוויץ קאנפירמד אז ער האט עס געשריבן?

יא. קאנפירמד

פובליק לינק אפשר?

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